goals – WOW! Write On Wisdom

Congratulations. If you’re keeping your New Year’s resolutions, you’ve passed Quitter’s Day—the second Friday after New Year’s—it’s a thing. If you’ve quit, don’t dismay. Only thirty-six percent of the population endure past January. But here’s the good news: Establishing new habits and routines can be fun.

While living among the Guji people of Ethiopia, we noticed if a person was laboring alone, someone would join in to help for a while. Soon, smiles and laughter broke out. I think they held a secret we’ve lost in our culture.

The Guji knew work was easier and more pleasurable when done together.

My mother-in-law used to say, “Many hands make light work.” If you’re trying to accomplish something on your own, you’ll tire quickly and join the rest of the population who give up their resolutions before January is over.

However, Americans have traditionally rewarded efficiency and valued working independently. Many of us now work remotely, and our help comes from Google. If we need information or want to learn something new, we search the Internet or create with ChatGPT. We read a self-help books or watch a YouTube videos rather than consulting a person. We seek advice only if we get stuck.

Human interaction creates synergy and benefits our mental health. When was the last time you laughed? Were you alone or with others? The saying, “Teamwork makes the dream work,” may be accurate, but in our hurry-up world, it seems faster to work alone.

But what do work ethic and human interaction have to do with sticking to New Year’s resolutions? The Bible says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17 NIV). Wisdom tells us combining our efforts is powerful. If you want to change a habit or develop a new one in 2025, I advocate finding a friend and doing it together. You’ll have more fun, hold one another accountable, and achieve better results.

In my last blog, I discussed the value of having an accountability partner. Biblical wisdom says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 NIV). A friend asked me three years ago to be her writing accountability partner. Since then, we’ve each published a book—a testimony to the truth of these verses.

Okay, I hear your objections. You may want to work with another person, but it seems too hard to find a common meeting time, or you worry you’re interrupting an already busy person.

Get creative. Consider times you’re already with someone, and make your time together intentional. Meet with a colleague or friend before work, at the gym, or over lunch. Walk with a neighbor in the morning or after work. Or, try a video call one evening a week after the kids are in bed. Meet with your accountability partner to discuss your goals, plans, and processes and then meet regularly to encourage and also challenge one another.